What do you want?
SMART objectives (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-based) allow companies to define their goals and that same approach can help you figure out what you want. What exactly are you looking for? What kind of relationship and with what kind of person? How will you know you're not settling? Are you limiting yourself? Do you actually desire more than you think? Are you setting your expectations too high? Are you able to put in the effort required to be successful? When do you want this? How does that impact your goal and effort? Once you clearly understand what you want you can develop a plan to make it happen!